Life gets crazy and boy do we know that story! Between 3 kids, all of their activities, full time jobs and all of life’s twists & turns, we are lucky to find any time for each other. Anyone relate?? I know I am not the only person in this situation…
Well, this year my husband, Ben, and I are celebrating our 15 year anniversary. Crazy right?! Where did 15 years go 😳??? It is truly hard to believe how fast time has flown. People always say “Don’t Blink” and now I know why. With this being our 15 year celebration, we decided to take a trip to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico KID-FREE. We couldn’t be more thrilled!! The last time we were alone on a trip for a week WITHOUT our kids was when we were on our honeymoon. Believe me, it’s not that we didn’t want to go on trips over the years, but as parents of 3 kids, now ages 12, 10, & 8 we got into a routine of putting them first. Our weekends are filled with sporting events, activities or even work. We want to give our kids all the opportunities possible because you are only kids once. This usually means sacrificing “us time” because, frankly, money does not grow on trees as I always dreamt it would!
This Saturday marks a new era for us. A week long vacation solo… just the two of us! We have come to the realization our kids won’t be with us forever and we need to keep our connection alive. Marriage takes WORK! Yep I said it… WORK! And, boy, it’s not always easy. I would love to talk to anyone who says marriage is “easy” because, in my experience, having an “easy marriage” isn’t real. There are times when my husband is on my last nerve and we fight every second. Other times he makes my heart skip a beat that I just can’t wait to be with him! Just like any friendship and partnership it takes work and constant communication.
This year we are trying to make US a priority. Maybe a big trip isn’t in your budget and that is ok… there are many other ways to make connections with each other.
Here are some ways to make your partner a priority in your life:
- Date Your Spouse – Yep, like old school! Get dressed up for each other and go some place fun! Even a date at home making a special dessert & watching a favorite show snuggled up after the kids go to bed could be a memorable night.
- Communicate – Find times to connect about your day. Ask how his/her day was – get details and give them back.
- Send a Sexy Text! – This one my hubs always loves- even if it is a message to say I am thinking of you!
- Have Sex – That’s right, I said it! You need to make time for physical intimacy regularly – you need it and so does your partner! You’ll feel a connection you don’t have otherwise. Also, try to step out of your comfort zone and initiate – everyone wants to feel wanted & your partner will be pleasantly surprised!
Marriage is a gift and should be an amazing part of life’s adventures… but like all great things it takes effort! Make the time 💛
Here’s me & my Ben on our wedding day 15 years ago & today!